Mentors or Mistakes? You Decide: Not So Random Thoughts Before Bed


There is a saying that I have when working with young folks. You learn from either mentors or mistakes; mentors are people who have already made the mistakes so make sure you listen to them. Now I must have a moment of transparency. There were many times that I didn’t take my own advice. Ha! Yes, I know it sounds crazy, but most people don’t take their own advice. My mama has always called me a “show-me” girl. For some strange reason I liked (past tense) experiential learning versus listening to wise counsel. Well not anymore. The older I get, the more I understand that mentors are so necessary in my life. Mentors have been there, done that and have the t-shirt, mug and license plate cover to show it. Mentors provide many missing pieces to the puzzle. Mentors can let you know where the land mines are. Mentors can help you check yourself. Again mentors are very necessary.

As I embark on my new endeavors of being an author, business owner and a creative I am blessed to be surrounded by so many great people who are willing to show me the way. I can say in my daily 9 to 5 I have not had many intentional mentor relationships. However, in this new space that I am in the mentors have been many.

Here are the reasons you need one or more mentors:

  • You don’t know everything.
  • Sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know.
  • You need an unbiased cheerleader.
  • You need to be pushed beyond your current capacity.
  • They help speed up the learning process.
  • You may think a question is stupid. They will just think you are a novice.
  • You need tough love.
  • They are connected to people that you need.
  • They help you add legs to your vision.
  • God says you need them (Proverbs 1:5, 13:20, Titus 2:2)

Make sure that your mentor experiences are not always one sided. Mentors use of their time, energy and resources is not to be taken lightly. As with all relationships we must nurture these whenever we can. Offer to VOLUNTEER your expertise or time, make a CONNECTION for them if you can, PROMOTE their events in your circles, and send them REFERRALS.

Relationships are circular in nature. When you get a good mentor/coach let the circle be unbroken.

Shoutout to my mentors!

Dr. Sabrina Jackson: Dr. Sabrina is a professional speaker with over 13 years experience with speaking to various audiences. Specifically, a Master Trainer in True Colors a model designed to help people work more collaboratively with those different from themselves.  Dr. Sabrina has created a model for the Body of Christ entitled Essential Colors which takes personality typing to another level. She provides speaking/training services to corporations, small businesses, conferences, retreats, churches, schools, and non-profits. The ultimate goal is to impact the world with the Essential Colors Model.

Check Dr. Sabrina out on her Facebook page.

Aprille Franks-Hunt: Aprille Franks-Hunt is an author, speaker, life & business advisor, as well as a multi-faceted business professional, who walked away from a successful career to pursue her passion of inspiring women beyond motivation. Her book, Confessions of an Independent Woman: Truth, Lies & Relationships released fall 2011. Aprille is natural born leader and the Creator/CEO of Women Recharged, a powerful movement designed to spread the global message of transformation through Aprille’s compelling LIVE, LEARN, and THRIVE mantra.

Check out Aprille’s community on Coach, Speak and Serve.

Both are knowledgable, helpful, on top of their game and giving of themselves.

Last bit of VERY important information. Mentorship is NOT free.99. At times it will cost you money, time, commitment, and energy. But aren’t your hopes, dreams and passions worth the expense?


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