This sign is up on my refrigerator. It has been there since my oldest child was in middle school. Today was one of those days that I really wanted to go to Kinkos and have them blow this sign up billboard size and leave it in my living room, kitchen, bathroom and at the front door. Being a parent is no walk in the park and neither is being a single mother. You are a counselor, a doctor, a chef, a nurse, a teacher, preacher, chauffeur, negotiator and any other occupation that comes to mind. At times, it can seem like a very thankless job. Not to mention, you still have a real full-time job where are times you have to be those things to your clients, customers and co-workers.
Needless to say, our children, as much as we love them can work our last nerve. They can Sammy Davis Jr, Shirley Temple, Gregory Hines, Fred Astaire, Nicholas Brothers (let Google be your friend if you don’t know these names) all up on our last nerve. Tonight, I offer you life lessons from one parent of 19, 15 & 6 year olds to another on how to deal with the young people in our lives. Yeah, I have almost 20 years in the game. I’m not new to this, I’m true to this. That’s my inner sensitive thug coming out LOL! This list is dedicated to the young folks in our lives who know so much, but at times know nothing at all.
- Let your yes mean yes. Let your no mean no.
- Let your children fail at something; it builds character, resilience and empowers them to make different choices next time.
- Make them finish what they start as long as it’s not harmful to their health or well-being.
- Teach them compassion for others, the world does not revolve around them.
- Life ain’t fair and neither is playing Uno. Make them earn a win.
- Stop doing everything for your children. Build their skill set by teaching them how to do things for themselves.
- Make them apologize when they are wrong. But we must do the same. It lets them know that we are not Super Heroes nor a Robot.
- Find them someone to talk to who is about 5 year or more older than them. A positive near peer is at times more effective than our yelling, cussing (oh don’t act like you haven’t done it or thought about it), or threatening.
- Last, but not least make sure you spend healthy time away from each other. Now some people will frown at this. But you read it here first, being around ANYBODY 24/7 will drive you crazy, I don’t care how much they love each other. Because contrary to what we believe there are times that we can Tootsie Roll (see I told you, you can insert Tootsie Rollin’ anywhere) on their last nerve too. Hell, sometimes I get on my own nerves.
This list is not exhaustive. Yes, showing them love is a given. And yes, some may think this list should be more loving, touchy-feely, and warm fuzzy. Well it’s one of those days and 2 out of the 3 young folks in my house have Sevion Glover’d (again Google him) all on my last nerve. So that’s all I got tonight folks. Maybe the sweet syrupy blog will happen tomorrow!